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Stop having so many expectations
When you expect things from others, you're not really giving yourself a chance to get to know someone or get to know yourself. If you expect someone to be a certain way, and they're not, you can feel disappointed and focus on what they're not rather than who they really are. When you do someone a favor expecting them to get you back, you're setting yourself up for failure. Do something nice if you want to, not if you want someone to do something nice for you. Sure, it may help, but don't make that the only reason because it won't always work out in your favor.
Don't expect the world from people, even if you are close with them. The more you expect from others, the worse your relationship can get.
Don't expect so much from yourself - if you expect to get an A on your paper, and you get a B, you're going to be let down. If you expect a guy from work to be attracted to you, and he only sees you as a friend, you may feel like there's something wrong with you. But if you didn't have any expectations at all, you and go with the flow and be more content with your day.
Learn when to hold on, and learn when to let go
Some things take time and you need to hold on.
Having a bad day at work? Hold on, things will get better. Maybe it's been a busy week or you've had a lot to deal with. A year later and still a bad day at work? Maybe letting go is an option now.
Same can go for a friendship or relationship. Hold on when a person isn't giving you his/her all, for he/she may be going through something personal. If you get into an argument with another, hold on, you can always sort it out. But learn to let go when that person makes it clear he/she is not interested in having you as a part of his/her life. Let go after someone has hurt you time over time again and never changes. Why would you want negative people in your life anyway?
Letting go isn't giving up, it is removing yourself from a situation where you have ultimately realized you needn't be.
Forgive others, then forgive yourself
We all make mistakes. We all say things and do things we wish we can take back. Even if someone does something terrible to you and you never want to associate with that person again, forgive him for his ignorance or coldness, forgive him so you can let go of anger.
We are so hard on ourselves and there are so many daily pressures. Things go wrong. Life always gives us a new shot, and that shot is tomorrow. Stop holding yourself back because of things you did in the past. Push yourself forward and use your time in the now wisely.
Don't take things so personally and stop trying to figure other people out
Nobody likes feeling left out or being last to know. Why did she invite her and not me? Why did he wait so long to tell me the news? Why is he checking her out and not me? Why won't he call me back?
There are millions of questions people ask themselves when they are feeling rejected or neglected. We try to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and catch where we went wrong. But it really isn't all that simple. We can't be someone else's mind. People are unpredictable.
It's hard not to take things personally when feeling down. But almost all of the time, the reason you're feeling let down isn't because people mean to hurt you intentionally. They were most likely doing something that was most convenient for them or just happened to work out a certain way. Not everybody is mindful of others, it's a shame, but it's true. So don't give someone the power to get you down. You don't deserve it.
Appreciate the little things and take nothing for granted
There are so many beautiful things in life we don't acknowledge because we are too busy or there are too many things going wrong. Instead of complaining about how tired we are from school or work, we should also rejoice that we are fortunate enough to be granted education and get paid so we can afford things like food, water, clothing, and shelter. While it sucks when our clothes are suddenly too tight, at least we have the comfort of knowing it's because we have easy access to food. That weight can be lost, anyway. But there are people out there who would be dying to be in your shoes. I know you've heard it before, but just think about it again.
There are so many things we can appreciate around us, such as nature, each different season, friendships, and importantly, family. Make time for family, they're there for you for life. Be there for them while they're around.
When you expect things from others, you're not really giving yourself a chance to get to know someone or get to know yourself. If you expect someone to be a certain way, and they're not, you can feel disappointed and focus on what they're not rather than who they really are. When you do someone a favor expecting them to get you back, you're setting yourself up for failure. Do something nice if you want to, not if you want someone to do something nice for you. Sure, it may help, but don't make that the only reason because it won't always work out in your favor.
Don't expect the world from people, even if you are close with them. The more you expect from others, the worse your relationship can get.
Don't expect so much from yourself - if you expect to get an A on your paper, and you get a B, you're going to be let down. If you expect a guy from work to be attracted to you, and he only sees you as a friend, you may feel like there's something wrong with you. But if you didn't have any expectations at all, you and go with the flow and be more content with your day.
Learn when to hold on, and learn when to let go
Some things take time and you need to hold on.
Having a bad day at work? Hold on, things will get better. Maybe it's been a busy week or you've had a lot to deal with. A year later and still a bad day at work? Maybe letting go is an option now.
Same can go for a friendship or relationship. Hold on when a person isn't giving you his/her all, for he/she may be going through something personal. If you get into an argument with another, hold on, you can always sort it out. But learn to let go when that person makes it clear he/she is not interested in having you as a part of his/her life. Let go after someone has hurt you time over time again and never changes. Why would you want negative people in your life anyway?
Letting go isn't giving up, it is removing yourself from a situation where you have ultimately realized you needn't be.
Forgive others, then forgive yourself
We all make mistakes. We all say things and do things we wish we can take back. Even if someone does something terrible to you and you never want to associate with that person again, forgive him for his ignorance or coldness, forgive him so you can let go of anger.
We are so hard on ourselves and there are so many daily pressures. Things go wrong. Life always gives us a new shot, and that shot is tomorrow. Stop holding yourself back because of things you did in the past. Push yourself forward and use your time in the now wisely.
Don't take things so personally and stop trying to figure other people out
Nobody likes feeling left out or being last to know. Why did she invite her and not me? Why did he wait so long to tell me the news? Why is he checking her out and not me? Why won't he call me back?
There are millions of questions people ask themselves when they are feeling rejected or neglected. We try to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and catch where we went wrong. But it really isn't all that simple. We can't be someone else's mind. People are unpredictable.
It's hard not to take things personally when feeling down. But almost all of the time, the reason you're feeling let down isn't because people mean to hurt you intentionally. They were most likely doing something that was most convenient for them or just happened to work out a certain way. Not everybody is mindful of others, it's a shame, but it's true. So don't give someone the power to get you down. You don't deserve it.
Appreciate the little things and take nothing for granted
There are so many beautiful things in life we don't acknowledge because we are too busy or there are too many things going wrong. Instead of complaining about how tired we are from school or work, we should also rejoice that we are fortunate enough to be granted education and get paid so we can afford things like food, water, clothing, and shelter. While it sucks when our clothes are suddenly too tight, at least we have the comfort of knowing it's because we have easy access to food. That weight can be lost, anyway. But there are people out there who would be dying to be in your shoes. I know you've heard it before, but just think about it again.
There are so many things we can appreciate around us, such as nature, each different season, friendships, and importantly, family. Make time for family, they're there for you for life. Be there for them while they're around.